Submitted by Sun Reporter2 on Mon, 2013-03-18 10:33
Question:
Dear Auntie Nangy, I have a problem with my menstruation. I saw something like a fi sh and when I went to see the doctor he said it’s blood clots, but I am so afraid. He even gave me medicine, but it’s still the same. Is there anything I can use to make it stop?
Answer:
Dear, if the doctor said that it is normal and you don’t have to worry, then you shouldn’t worry. If the medicine he gave you is not working, then you can go back to him or if you feel that you would like a second opinion then you can go to another doctor.
Submitted by Sun Reporter2 on Fri, 2013-03-15 08:06
Question:
Dear Auntie Nangy, Is it normal for a married woman to masturbate even though her husband satisfies her?
Answer:
Yes, it is quite normal. Sexual needs differ from person to person. If one partner in a relationship has a lower sex drive than the other, then there is nothing wrong with the partner with the higher sex drive masturbating. This in no way demeans the relationship or indicates that there is something wrong with it.
Submitted by Sun Reporter2 on Fri, 2013-03-15 08:06
Question:
Dear Auntie Nangy, My wife and I have been married for two years now, but we don’t have a baby. We tried having one but the pregnancy was terminated by the doctor, because she complained of back pain. Now she is forcing me to have sex even when she has her period just because she wants to fall pregnant. Will she get pregnant if I have sex with her while she has her period?
Answer:
To answer your question, yes she can fall pregnant when she’s having her period, although it is highly unlikely as this was always seen as the “safe period” in a woman’s menstrual cycle. But there are some other issues here that worry me. In the first place I do not know how a doctor can terminate a pregnancy just because your wife had back pain? I cannot believe that any doctor will do that. The other thing that concerns me is the fact that you say she forces you to have sex. This can lead to problems in your marriage as this can make you feel resentful. Sex should always be spontaneous and fun and never be forced. She has to relax and take it easy and not see sex just as a means to fall pregnant, but as a way for two people who love one another to be close to each other.
Submitted by Sun Reporter2 on Fri, 2013-03-15 08:06
Question:
Dear Auntie Nangy, I have a problem, I used the morning after pill, but until now my period hasn’t started. I’m scared to go to the hospital.
Answer:
You don’t have to go to a hospital, as you can buy a home pregnancy test from a pharmacy to see if you are pregnant. You will have to face your fears sooner rather than later and take the test.
Submitted by Sun Reporter2 on Fri, 2013-03-15 08:06
Question:
Dear Auntie Nangy, Can I get infected with HIV if I lick a girl’s private parts?
Answer:
Having oral sex with an HIV positive person can infect you but only if you have an open sore or wound as the virus can only be transmitted from vaginal or seminal fluid into the bloodstream through such a wound and not through the skin.
Submitted by Sun Reporter2 on Fri, 2013-03-15 08:06
Question:
Dear Auntie Nangy, I am a 19-year-old girl and I have a problem with my breasts. They are so big it looks like those of someone who has a baby. I’m so short and sexy. What can I do for my breasts to become smaller?
Answer:
Apart from having surgery to reduce the size of your breasts there is nothing you can do to make them smaller, but you see yourself as sexy so you obviously have the self confidence to feel good about yourself and your body. You are short, sexy and confident so why would you want to change anything about yourself?
Submitted by Sun Reporter2 on Fri, 2013-03-15 08:06
Question:
Dear Auntie Nangy, My lover does not like it if I touch her. She sleeps fully clothed and she never tells me when she needs sex. When we do have sex, she pushes me away when I am about to ejaculate. Both of us are HIVnegative, but it’s been going on like this for a year now. Can I date another woman or masturbate in front of her? What can I do?
Answer:
To make any relationship work, it is extremely important that there is an open channel of communication between the parties involved. This fact is even more critical when it comes to sexual matters. Neither one of you can read minds and the only way that you can find out what the other one’s likes and dislikes are, is to talk openly about them. There may be some deep psychological reason that makes your partner acts like she does and it may mean that she needs professional help. The only way that you will know this is by talking to her. On the other hand, she cannot know what you want from this relationship if you don’t tell her. Just remember that communication must be based on love and give and take and you should never be accusatory. Dating another woman will be cheating and that will definitely not solve the problem, but only make it worse. There is nothing wrong with masturbating in front of one another, as long as both are comfortable with it. You can only know how she feels about this if you talk to her.
Submitted by Sun Reporter2 on Thu, 2013-03-14 10:34
Question:
Dear Auntie Nangy, I am a girl and I have a boyfriend who likes to kiss me but I don’t want to kiss him, what can I do Auntie?
Answer:
Boys like kissing girls and if you don’t like it then maybe you are not ready to have a boyfriend or he is not the right boyfriend for you. Tell him that you are not ready for a relationship and then go about your life having fun and not worrying about having a boyfriend. The right boyfriend will turn up and when you find the right boyfriend you will know it and then you will want to kiss him. Don’t do something that you don’t like just because it is expected of you.
Submitted by Sun Reporter2 on Thu, 2013-03-14 10:34
Question:
Dear Auntie Nangy, I have a problem with my boyfriend. I found out that he’s dating another girl and when I asked him about it, he started insulting me.
Answer:
Then perhaps you should seriously start reviewing your relationship with this man and decide where you want your relationship to go. Speak to him when he’s not angry so that you don’t insult each other.
