Submitted by Sun Reporter2 on Thu, 2013-03-28 10:32
Question:
Dear Auntie Nangy, I have a boyfriend and he is cheating on me with another girl in Grade 8 who is also my best friend.
Answer:
If you are 100% sure your friend is cheating with your boyfriend, then let this boy go. I don’t know how long you and this girl have been friends but you will have to decide on your own if you still want to remain friends with her. That’s not how one is supposed to treat a friend at all.
Submitted by Sun Reporter2 on Tue, 2013-03-26 08:05
Question:
Dear Auntie Nangy, I’m 15 years old and I am in love with a guy in my class. He is cool and I am really in love with him. He even smiles each time we look at each other, but he does not make a move. Do you think he loves me too?
Answer:
I think it’s a bit early to talk about love at this stage. You should also not get your hopes up and mistake his kindness for love. You are still very young, instead of thinking about just becoming romantically involved with him, why not try being friends first. Just saying ‘hi’ when you bump into each other can also slowly help you build a friendship. Don’t rush into anything.
Submitted by Sun Reporter2 on Wed, 2013-03-27 08:05
Question:
Dear Auntie Nangy, I’ve been in this wonderful relationship for more than a year and I love my boyfriend very much. We are also getting married but my problem is that when we have sex, I never get an orgasm but I really enjoy sleeping with him because he does it so right. Can u help me please?
Answer:
If you really love him then you shouldn’t fake it with him. If he is doing it so right, then why doesn’t he give you an orgasm? Maybe you should try foreplay or even extra stimulation before actual intercourse begins. You can also try sex toys or masturbation before intercourse.
Submitted by Sun Reporter2 on Wed, 2013-03-27 08:05
Question:
Dear Auntie Nangy; I’m a girl of 19 years and I have a problem. Firstly, I was in a relationship with a guy and I dumped him last month because he doesn’t know how to treat a girlfriend and he was cheating on me with my friend. Now I am in love with his big brother. I get irritated by the community when they insult me like ‘slut’, ‘gold digger’, ‘bitch’ and so on. Is it wrong to date brothers? Please help.
Answer:
If you really like your ex’s brother, then so be it. No matter what you do people will still talk and they will still call you names. On the other hand, don’t you think coming from one failed relationship to another might not be the smartest thing to do at the moment? Rather give yourself time to think things over. You don’t need to have a boyfriend in order to be happy. It’s not wrong to date brothers, but I think you are moving a little too fast. Why don’t you give yourself some time out and save yourself the emotional abuse for the time being. I’m not guaranteeing that the abusive language will stop. Being attracted to your ex’s brother may also be a subconscious action, with you still holding on to your ex, but not wanting to let him go, so you are attracted to a quality that he and his brother share instead.
Submitted by Sun Reporter2 on Wed, 2013-03-27 08:05
Question:
Dear Auntie Nangy, I have this cousin of mine who’s in love with me. Is it a crime if we date or can I love him back the way he does? I feel as if it’s wrong but he’s in love!
Answer:
The sad thing about love is that we don’t choose who we fall in love with. I’m not sure how you and this cousin of yours are related but if you are blood relatives, for example your uncle or aunt’s son, then there is a problem. You are actually not supposed to fall in love with your cousin, but this kind of thing is bound to happen. You on the other hand don’t necessarily have to act on all your feelings at all times. You should maybe try taking some time away from your cousin, in order for the two of you to let the feelings simmer for a while. Hopefully, they will die down and you won’t be in love with him anymore. The term ‘kissing cousins’ refers exactly to what you are going through. I wish you the best love.
Submitted by Sun Reporter2 on Wed, 2013-03-27 08:05
Question:
Dear Auntie Nangy I’m still a teenager and my boyfriend is only a year older than me. We started dating last year in December. The first four weeks, he always SMSed and called me, but now he doesn’t even reply back when I SMS him. And when I see him, he asks me if I still love him. I have no choice but to say I do, love! I don’t know what to do anymore.
Answer:
Why should you feel you have no choice but to tell him that you love him? Do you mean it? You should rather ask him why he doesn’t reply to your SMSes. It may just be because he doesn’t have the credit to reply. Ask him, don’t suffer in silence. Communicate. Living in doubt will eat at your heart and eventually the relationship will be destroyed. The best thing you can do is to get clarity about what is actually going on. The reality is that there may various reasons why he is acting the way he is. You need to be prepared for any eventually, which may include the fact that his feelings have changed. But let’s not get ahead of ourselves. Talk to him and clear the air.
Submitted by Sun Reporter2 on Wed, 2013-03-27 08:05
Question:
Dear Auntie Nangy I have been married for ten years. My husband had a girlfriend and they worked together. He stopped supporting us and he doesn’t pay for water or power. He insults us. So, in this matter what can I do? If I divorce, my kids will suffer and I think a lot about his attitude.
Answer:
I gather you don’t have a job then. If you are not happy and his a_ airs have been going on for long, sometimes getting out might be the only way. You can live with a relative until you find a job and start working for your children and yourself. You can’t really report him for not supporting you and the children if the two of you are still married. You can always start over. His money should not be the only thing keeping you in that relationship if you are not happy. It’s not healthy for you or your children. You need to take care of yourself first in order to be able to take care of your children. Thinking about his attitude constantly will not make it any better. It will just stress you.
Submitted by Sun Reporter2 on Tue, 2013-03-26 09:47
Question:
Dear Auntie Nangy, I’m 17 and I’m in a relationship with a 19-year-old. I love him very much but the problem is that he wants us to have sex and I’m not ready, I’m a virgin and afraid.
Answer:
If you feel you are not yet ready to have sex with your boyfriend, then tell him you are not ready. If he really loves you, he will understand. You are both young and have no reason to rush into things. Sex is not just about fulfi lling your physical desires, but also includes building emotional ties. You should really be sure you are ready before you have sex with anyone.
Submitted by Sun Reporter2 on Tue, 2013-03-26 09:46
Question:
Dear Auntie Nangy, I’m 21 and have been staying with my 26-year-old boyfriend for almost four months. We really are in love, but the problem is that we argue over silly matters and we go for days without talking. I really need your advice, because I don’t know what to think anymore.
Answer:
If this man is not treating you like you deserve and need to be loved, then let him know how you feel. If he does not want to understand or see your argument as valid, then you should definitely give him some ultimatums. It’s clear that you are not happy with the way he has been treating you, so it’s up to you to put your foot down. Are you sure that moving in together was a smart thing to do?
Submitted by Sun Reporter2 on Tue, 2013-03-26 09:46
Question:
Dear Auntie Nangy, I have big boobs and I don’t like them at all. I don’t get to wear bikinis and go have a swim with friends. I’m only 20 and they make me look like a mother while I’m not. I want to make them small but don’t know where I can do this. Please help me if you know of a doctor that can operate and make them smaller. Please help I’m desperate.
Answer:
Big breasts are only a problem if they pose a health risk to you such as back pains or even your chest. For this, all you have to do is go to your doctor and you can then discuss options with your doctor. On the other hand, if it’s because you just don’t want people looking at them or you feel they are too big for you, then we may have a problem. In order to be comfortable with your breasts, you can try wearing clothes that will fit you well. You should not be ashamed of your breasts or cover them up. Wear bras that will hold them firmly and fl aunt them at the same time. Accentuate what you have my sweetheart.
