Submitted by Sun Reporter2 on Tue, 2013-04-02 10:37
Question:
Dear Auntie Nangy, I’m a 19-year-old guy dating a girl of 18. I’m sharing a room with my 15-year-old male cousin and am madly in love with him. I enjoy masturbating and ejaculating in his pants and giving him oral sex while he is sleeping. Must I tell him that I’m in love with him? Does this mean that I’m gay?
Answer:
I suggest that you go and see a psychologist in order to help you understand and accept your situation. What you need to do as soon as possible is to stop what you are doing to your cousin. To start with, he is a minor, meaning that he is underage. What you should also know is that any sexual act that is done without the person’s consent is rape. Your cousin may not be sleeping when you are doing these things to him, and may be fully aware of what you do to him, but is too afraid to do anything about it. Your cousin could tell his parents or even report you to the police himself.
Submitted by Sun Reporter2 on Tue, 2013-04-02 10:37
Question:
Dear Auntie Nangy, I’m a woman aged 27 and I have two children. The girl is fi ve and the boy is only eight months old. I need to know if it’s the right time to tell my daughter about sex. The reason why I’m asking is that one day, she asked me if I was screaming and crying when I gave birth to her brother like the ladies on TV. I need your advice because I was shocked when she asked me.
Answer:
It’s always good to educate your children about sex at an early age so that they know. You don’t necessarily have to go into the heavy details, but you can tell her that it wasn’t easy having her. This way, you educate your daughter from an early age and she will thus also appreciate and love you even more because she knows what you went through just for her. Just tell her the basics and with time, build on that knowledge. Children are smarter than we actually think.
Submitted by Sun Reporter2 on Tue, 2013-04-02 10:36
Question:
Dear Auntie Nangy, I’m 14 and madly in love with a 17-year-old guy. He said he also feels the same about me, but we can’t date because he can’t control himself when he is with me. He is dating another girl just not to be lonely, and when I try to forget him, he keeps on begging me to wait for the right time. Are we really meant for each other or should I leave him and move on?
Answer:
I think you are too young to know what real love actually is, and by the sound of things, this guy is not serious with you. His excuse of not being able to control himself and being with another girl just so that he is not lonely is a lot of rubbish. You need to move on with your life, stop listening to his useless excuses and forget about him. You are just 14, believe me when I say, there will be many more to come. You need to see what you’re worth and not allow yourself to be treated like a toy. This guy can’t possibly want you and the other girl at the same time. That is just so wrong of him to even expect that of you. You need to tell him to get lost, not to beg you at all because you are so much more than just a quick fi x for him. You need to put your foot down. Instead of thinking about this guy - why not try putting your energy in your hobbies, school work and other things?
Submitted by Sun Reporter2 on Thu, 2013-03-28 10:36
Question:
Dear Auntie Nangy, I’m a 27-year-old virgin man and I hate myself. When I look at ladies, I don’t think I deserve to have one. I’m very shy and don’t even know how to approach and convince a lady. I want to have a girl and give her flowers like others do.
Answer:
You need to get yourself professional help from a psychologist. You need to find out why you hate yourself. Start seeing yourself more as a worthy human being who can contribute positively to the well-being of other people. You, however, cannot make anyone happy if you are not happy yourself.
Submitted by Sun Reporter2 on Thu, 2013-03-28 10:35
Question:
Dear Auntie Nangy, I’m 17 and I’m dating a 27-yearold guy. I think I have fallen for someone else and I don’t know how to tell him that it’s over between the two of us. I tried to tell him, but it didn’t work because I still love him and I think of him. What should I do?
Answer:
What you need to do is make up your mind, and fast. You know it yourself that what you are doing is not fair to the two guys. Be careful, you are treading on dangerous ground. If you like someone else, please let your boyfriend know that he’s history and let him go. Don’t string him along like that. One minute you like the one guy and then the next minute you want to hold and kiss your current boyfriend. I suggest you decide and let one go.
Submitted by Sun Reporter2 on Thu, 2013-03-28 10:35
Question:
Dear Auntie Nangy, Me and a family girl I am deeply in love with but we don’t know how to start our relationship. What must I do?
Answer:
I remember getting this problem before and I told you that I don’t understand what you mean by ‘family girl’. Are the two of you related or what are you trying to tell me? I can’t help you if you don’t make yourself clear. Do send your question in again but give me more information this time.
Submitted by Sun Reporter2 on Thu, 2013-03-28 10:34
Question:
Dear Auntie Nangy, Where can I go if I want to go for plastic surgery? Please forward me the details, I will really appreciate it.
Answer:
What plastic surgery do you want to go for? I’m not sure of what surgery is done locally but try asking your doctor if they know anyone who does it. It, however, doesn’t come cheap, so I hope you are prepared to spend money.
Submitted by Sun Reporter2 on Thu, 2013-03-28 10:33
Question:
Dear Auntie Nangy, I am 18 and I have been dating a 16-year-old girl. After three months, I fell in love with her sister and we started cheating. I am confused, I didn’t want to hurt any of them so I told her the truth about it, and she broke up with me, but now her sister is mad at me. I want her back, I love her very much and I don’t know what to do. I feel like a loser. Please help me, tell me what to do.
Answer:
It was not very smart of you to want your bread buttered on both sides, all at once and at such a young age. What you have done is to pitch two sisters against each other and both of them are probably angry at you. This was selfish of you. If you say that you love her, then why did you go for her sister behind her back at the same time? You, my boy need to learn how to stick to one partner and just play it safe. Whether she forgives you or not will totally depend on your ex-girlfriend. In the mean time, let her cool off and don’t pressure her. If she still wants you back, she will take you back. Otherwise, all you can do is learn a lesson and move on. Leave this kind of behaviour to the actors and actresses of the Bold and Beautiful.
Submitted by Sun Reporter2 on Thu, 2013-03-28 10:32
Question:
Dear Auntie Nangy, I have a problem with my periods. It’s painful whenever I start and it takes time for the pain to go. Sometimes if they start in the night, I don’t sleep at all. Please help me.
Answer:
Go and see a doctor and have yourself checked out. Get a doctor’s opinion and find out if it can be solved or not. If it can’t, then you will have to just use pain killers. It is all different from women to women and your body shape.
Submitted by Sun Reporter2 on Thu, 2013-03-28 10:32
Question:
Dear Auntie Nangy, I have tried to move on with my life after I broke up with my boyfriend, but I can’t. He has now changed and I love him. I just want to kiss, hug and hold him in my arms. He also wants to, so how do I tell him that I feel the same way too?
Answer:
How do you know that he wants you back? If he’s giving you signs, then give the signs back and let him know that you feel the same way too. If you are prepared to give it one more try, go ahead.
